You do have sex with her, and you are both able to be satisfied by it with you achieving climax. You're not physically attracted to her, because you claim you're gay. I've read through some of your answers as to why, and to be honest, I fail to understand any of it.
I would think that even if you're a straight male, you could eventually get accustomed enough to fucking a guy in the ass that you could orgasm, even if you're not sexually attracted to men. I would assume that the reverse is true (though how you'd get someone to agree to it, I have no idea). I can usually stay hard until she's reached her peak, and half the time I can stay on board until I orgasm myself. Now, I think my body's just grown accustomed to the whole experience.
The first year, staying hard long enough for her to climax was difficult, so I became a pro with my tongue. You just wouldn't know, because you'd never let a guy suck your dick in the first place. The simple fact of the matter is that regardless of your sexual orientation, only the most stubborn (or broken) of cocks can ignore skilled fellatio, whether it's a guy or a girl doing the sucking. Most straight guys like to imagine that they couldn't possibly get hard if a guy was sucking their dick. Getting hard usually involves oral foreplay. We both agreed during this past pregnancy that we didn't want more after these two. We have a three-year old son and a seven-month old daughter. Have you two talked about having children? Most likely my parents figure that I went through a "gay phase" and turned out to be straight, but it really doesn't matter to me whether they completely understand all the details. I figure they must think the relationship is a little unusual, but they've all just accepted it and don't ask questions about the specifics. I told them that she did, and they all left it at that. My parents and siblings know about my past relationships with guys, even though I never declared myself to be gay, and they asked before I got married whether my wife (then my fiancee) knew about this. I am highly skeptical of the idea that you can convert yourself from gay to straight, but I do think it's entirely possible to learn to have a sexual relationship with someone you're not sexually attracted to, and even to grow to enjoy it.ĭo people outside your marriage (like family and friends) know about your "unconventional" marriage?
I just choose not to act upon it because I'm committed to the relationship I'm already in. the sexual attraction toward men that I have always had) is the same as it always was. Whoever you are, that's who you should be. On that note, let me quickly point out that I don't think I've somehow changed my sexual orientation, and I'm absolutely not in any way trying to advocate ANY kind of ex-gay anything whatsoever. The first year, it was difficult for me to reach orgasm when we had sex, but it's gradually become easier. Sometimes we both climax, sometimes only she does. I accommodate her because I realize she is sexually attracted to me, so we have occasional sex. It's definitely more emotional but the physical has evolved over the past six years. What is your marriage like? Is there any physical connection between you two, or is it strictly emotional? If it's strictly emotional, is it open sexually?